Its been awhile since I last blogged on here! :) Well I have had alot go on. From gaining new friends, to losing some. From my life plans failing, to new ones created. I'm learning from my mistakes alot and I'm trying to learn from them. Repeating my old mistakes is not in my vocabulary. I'm gonna be honest, I'm not a fan of relationships. Or not the whole 'getting into' a relationship. It is just a bunch of over analyzing and awkwardness. I tried the singleness for awhile, about two years. A good friend of mine convinced me to join a dating website called plentyoffish.com. I really didn't want to, cuz I've done that several times before, and was just sick of it. She convinced me to take another shot at it. She said, "You never know! :)" So i took a chance. "Why not," I told myself. I made a profile, put a few pics of myself up, and just browsed a few profiles. The next day I checked it, and have several messages from single men. A bunch of them were cheesy, and from alot of older men in their 40's. NOT MY TYPE! After looking through alot of the messages, there were a few men that were close to my age, and decent looking. I have talked to a few guys online, not really any connection at the time. One of them in particular stuck out. So far so good. I have talked to him on the phone the last couple of nights. He seems like a genuine guy, with a good heart. Who knows though, I have a date with him next Thursday night. I just hope it goes well. Honestly though, I really hate trying to get into a new relationship with someone new. Not to be pessimistic, but you have to talk about alot of your past, which I'm not about. I'm now, looking towards the future, taking one step at a time. I guess the past made me who I am today. So I should be thankful for that. :) Okay, I'll stop rambling on. Just wish me luck on my date next week! :) Well I hope you all have a good night, and enjoy the rest of your week!

Kristi

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R.I.P. Lady :(

R.I.P. Lady! My jack russel terrier just passed away September 23rd. I'm devistated she was a part of me. Now I just hope she rests in peace. Miss you Lady!

My New Obsession

Yes the Vampire Diaries is my brand new obsession! wayy good :) It just started last thursday on CWTV. So if you haven't started..you can't catch up watching last weeks episode online at cwtv.com. The show is about...

Four months after the tragic car accident that killed their parents, 17-year-old Elena Gilbert (Nina Dobrev, "DeGrassi: The Next Generation") and her 15-year-old brother, Jeremy (Steven R. McQueen, "Everwood"), are still adjusting to their new reality. Elena has always been the star student; beautiful, popular and involved with school and friends, but now she finds herself struggling to hide her grief from the world. Elena and Jeremy are now living with their cool-but-overwhelmed Aunt Jenna (Sara Canning, "Smallville"), who is doing her best to be a surrogate parent.

Elena manages to find some comfort with her familiar social circle – best friend Bonnie (Katerina Graham, "17 Again"), frenemy Caroline (Candice Accola, "Juno"), and former boyfriend Matt (Zach Roerig, "Friday Night Lights"), but Jeremy is on a more dangerous path, hanging out with the stoners and using drugs to hide his pain. Jeremy is also trying to figure out why Matt's sister, Vicki (Kayla Ewell, "The Bold and The Beautiful"), is suddenly rejecting him and hanging out with Jeremy's rival, Tyler (Michael Trevino, "Cane").

As the school year begins at Mystic Falls High, Elena and her friends are fascinated by a handsome and mysterious new student, Stefan Salvatore (Paul Wesley, "Fallen"). Stefan and Elena are immediately drawn to one another, although Elena is puzzled by Stefan's increasingly bizarre behavior when he appears suddenly at the cemetery where her parents are buried. What she doesn't realize is that Stefan is hiding a dark, deadly secret of his own – the fact that he's a vampire. At a bonfire party the next night, Elena and Stefan are just getting to know each other when chaos erupts after Vicki is attacked and left bleeding from a savage bite to the neck.

Fearing that he knows who is responsible for the attack, Stefan returns home and finds his older brother, Damon (Ian Somerhalder, "Lost"), whom he hasn't seen for 15 years. Damon is also a vampire, and the two brothers have a long and bitter history. Damon ridicules Stefan for rejecting their legacy of violence and brutality, but he understands his brother's obsession with Elena, since she looks exactly like a woman Stefan loved more than a century ago; a woman that Damon tried to make his own. Now these two vampire brothers – one good, one evil – are at war for Elena's soul and for the souls of her friends, family and all the residents of Mystic Falls, Virginia.

Yeahh that's just beginning of the show..its nail biting! :) Here is the most handsome actor on the show..Paul Wesley as Stefan Salvatore! He's very good looking!






Like I said he is wayy good looking. Now I personally don't know him or his personality..but all i can say is he definetly is a rising star in the process :)

So don't miss out! Watch the show on thursday nights! Check your local listings for times! :)

Cali Girl
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What Women Want!

I checked in with some young, single, professional women on dating scenes in cities across the country to find out what they seek in relationships and the men they date. Some of them shared stories of genuinely respectful male behavior, some told tales of straight-up dating disrespect, and some didn’t know what kind of respect to expect. Modern dating rules are fuzzy: it’s often easy for women to settle for less and for men to be confused about how to act. One thing was clear: what these savvy women really want is for men to learn some new rules of respect. Here are the top four rules women told me they’d like their men to know. Gentlemen: read up, take notes and follow the rules.


Respect Rule #1: Chivalry is alive.
The man who announced chivalry’s funeral probably never had much luck with the ladies. Women want men to behave as gentlemen. We can buy our own condos, cars, even diamonds. We aren’t looking for providers; we’re looking for a man who makes us feel special and appreciated. It’s the small gestures—opening doors, bringing flowers, paying compliments—that earn big credit for little cash.


Respect Rule #2: Follow the Golden Rule, with a twist.
It’s hard work—for men and women—to keep track of the constantly changing rules of dating. But here’s a simple one that never goes out of style: treat women the way you’d like a man to treat your sisters, mothers or daughters. We will appreciate the respectful attitude and you won’t have any angry big brothers looking to mess with you. THIS IS A MUST! :)


Respect Rule #3: Give it to us straight.
Now that phones are easily slipped into bags and pockets, there’s no reason to sit home waiting for a man to call. But if we hear “I’ll call you,” we expect that phone to buzz, light up, or sing Beyonce within a week. It may be easy to simply promise a call with no follow-through, but we’d rather hear your true intentions from the start.


Respect Rule #4: We’re our own boss.
Men playing the role of over-possessive stalkers as a sign of “affection” went out with bellbottoms and polyester, and there’s no hope for a comeback. It is not only a red flag of disrespect, but a bucket of ice on our desires. Women today find success in life with independent attitudes --- if we wanted a man to tell us what to wear and how to do our hair, we’d hire ourselves a stylist.

Women today want more, deserve more and won’t settle for just a little respect.
Ladies, set a new standard for yourselves—and the lucky men you date!:)

7 Things GIRLS Wish GUYS Knew About Dating..

(1) Guys often seem to use the emotional to get the physical: Thats called being a jerk! Dont do it.

(2) Prioritize communication over romance: As a matter of fact, to a woman, commnication IS romance! So work hard at putting effort into the communication front. After we've dated you for a while, you tell us you cant think of anything to say. That always confuses us because you could think of plenty to say when you were first trying to catch us. Bottom line; we think you stop being a good communicator because you let yourself get lazy and allow too much focus to go on the romantic side of our relationship.

(3) We want to be your girlfriend, not your mother!: Girls are wired to want to follow and look up to the significant guy in their life. But we cant play mental "pretend games". So though we know you cant be perfect, please try to make the character choices that will give us someone we can honestly respect. We want you to be the leader and initiator too. That means, even thinking ahead about what we're going to do on dates. Dont just pick us up and say, "What do you want to do tonight?". Even strong girls want to feel like they are dating a guy who is a leader and someone they can quietly lean on.

(4) Tell us often what you appreciate about us, and dont focus primarily on our appearance: We want honest affirmation and thrive when you give it to us. But try to focus more on complimenting our "insides" than our "ousides". Yes, we want you to think that we're hot and good-looking. But we gain moutains of security when we feel like your commitment to us is more about who we are than about how we look.

(5) Dont be a "player": Guard and protect our hearts. If things are not going anywhere in our dating relationship (or if your feelings change), please dont drag things out. Have the guts to speak privately and honestly to us. All along the journey, please be clear about your intentions and refuse to play emotional games with us to get what you want physically or to build your ego up!

(6) Remember that what we feel is as real to us as what you think: So listen deeply when we talk. And dont try to fix it till you feel it.

(7) Be strong enough to be weak sometimes: Be "steel wrapped in velvet." Strong guys are able to easily admit when they are wrong!, ask for forgiveness, and seek advice from others. Sometime your tough, macho fron is a turn-off to us. Be man enough to be vulnerable and truthful. (as guys you will lead us through your strengths, but we will connect to you through your weaknesses.) You go up in our eyes when you are man enough to ask for forgiveness or help.

Monday Thoughts

So its the beginning of a new week. :) I have been searching and searching what i want to do with my life, trying to please everyone else. && I think I wanna do something out there for me :) I NEED to. I don't know what it is yet..but we will see. Well hope all of you are well. Have a fabulous week :)

Amazing Plans <3

Happy Friday! :-) Wow its finally friday, how time passes by. So I'm super excited! My good friend, Kimmy is getting married on August 1st, and she is having a girls night on saturday night :) So the plan is that she has her bridal shower at 6 pm for snacks and games. && later on we are going to portland for dinner and drinks at Chevvys, and then stay at the Hilton. Yay, and drinks are provided. Its going to be so much fun :-) Just me and the girls..its going to be a blast! :-) So since we are talking about drinking.. I have a brand new cocktail that i absolutely love :-)

Where to get it?: Applebee's!

What is it called?: Jamaica Freeze
What is in it?: Irresistibly made with DeKuyper Luscious Melon Dew liqueur, Malibu Pineapple rum, piña colada mix and banana. Garnished with fresh pineapple and cherry.

Rating: 5 Stars *****

Well that's it for me. Hope everyone has a wonderful weekend :-) Have fun and be safe!